This blog innocently started in a nail shop. One of the shop’s owners, Vi, invited me to pick a color and have a seat at the pedicure station. Routine start. I sat down in the pedicure chair and was greeted by a new technician. She was kind and sweet in spirit. She also had dramatic burns on every part of her body I could see with the exception of her toes. She had masterfully painted on her lips and eye brows to give her face the definition that was lost in the trauma. My heart hurt for the unknown pain she must have been through. I wondered: How did this happen? I thought it must be a miracle she is even alive.
After my pedicure, I transferred to the manicure table where the other shop owner, Flower, sat. I told her how much I enjoyed meeting Tien, the new technician, and asked if Tien was the cousin she had mentioned in the past who helped in the shop a few days a week.
Flower told me Tien was her neighbor and had recently moved to the United States from Vietnam. Leaning forward, Flower thanked me for being so kind to Tien. She went on to tell me that the last customer asked for a different technician when she saw Tien’s burnt face.
She did WHAT?
She asked for a different technician in front of Tien.
Then Flower told me Tien’s story. Tien was a movie star in Vietnam. Unfortunately, her abusive and jealous husband couldn’t take the attention Tien received so he hired someone to pour acid on her face. Tien lost sight in one eye and has no left ear, in addition to the visual burns you can see.
Her husband received 14 years in prison. Tien came to the states to start a new life, but was only allowed to bring one of her two children. Heart wrenching!
My first response after hearing this story: Oh, you let me at that woman who said she wanted a different technician. I have never punched anyone in the face before, but there could always be a first time! Did this woman forget that Tien was a human being? Did she forget that Tien was made in the image of God? Did she forget that Tien could SEE, HEAR and FEEL the rejection?
When I was done with my mental rant, I had to ask God WHY anyone would treat Tien this way.
What drove this woman to treat Tien without dignity or respect simply because Tien looked different than her?
The answer: FEAR.
We fear what we don’t understand. We fear what we can’t explain. We fear the person who is different than us. It challenges our self-identity. It challenges our sense of security.
So we retreat or we judge to make ourselves feel safer.
Have we forgotten what it means to be human?
As a Christian, I can’t give in to my human nature to deny others human dignity for my own self-preservation. It is selfish.
Selfish people die selfish and did I mention – ALONE.
The Bible is clear about what my response should be. Anything different is simply wrong.
Jesus challenges us to see the face of Christ in the faces of those that are different than us: “I was hungry, and you gave me food. I was thirsty, and you gave me something to drink. I was alone and away from home, and you invited me into your house. I was without clothes, and you gave me something to wear. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me” (Matthew 25:35-37 NCV).
1 John 3:18 (AMP) teaches, “Little children (believers, dear ones), let us not love [merely in theory] with word or with tongue [giving lip service to compassion], but in action and in truth [in practice and in sincerity, because practical acts of love are more than words].”
Let’s be better humans and change the world by giving dignity and respect to every person we meet.
Tiffany Parry
August 16, 2016Your title caught me straight away – yes, amen – let’s be better humans. There are far too many rotten ones, right?! 😉 Oh but for the chance to show them grace – to lean in and tell them there is a God who loves them in their messedupness and that there is a better way. And then to live it altogether better! Great, great post. So glad to visit from #tellhisstory today.
Angela L Craig
August 25, 2016Thank you so much Tiffany for stopping by to read and comment. Your amazing! You may also be interested in the new Thursday link up at http://www.northwestwomen.com
Angela Howard
August 17, 2016This story is heartbreaking, but the most important truth I heard is the transformation that happens when we choose to really look past the outward distractions and see the heart. Each person needs this validation and love. It’s hard to do this if we are too busy to slow down and honor the next person in front of us. I was encouraged this week by my 14 year old daughter Emily who hounded me until we had my 8 year old niece over. She felt compelled to give her some extra attention and wouldn’t let it go. As I sat painting with Sydney last night she said, “oh aunty I just love this time with you.” I wonder how much we value people–not for what they do but for who they are–creations of God. This post jumped out of my inbox and I was happy to see it over at #tellhisstory as well. Thank you my friend!
Barbara Todd
August 18, 2016Great reminder Angela. We go along in our own little worlds until we come face to face with those who don’t know
God’s love for themselves much less for others. Then God sends His representative in to redeem the situation and wash away the hurt with grace. So glad you were available that day – A reminder for all of us. Blessings!
Angela L Craig
August 25, 2016Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. Your words are valuable. I hope you are doing well! Love Angela
Pam bacani
September 22, 2016What a sad story! If I sat in front of Tien my heart would have ached! I don’t know if I could have pulled it together. (Not Cry) Yes, we all need to practice being better humans! I have a story I will never forget for as long as I live.
When I saw about 11 years old, I had to go to summer school. I witnessed a lot of children making fun of this girl that had burns all over. Her whole body was one big burn. I did not tease her but stayed away. After watching all of this and seeing her sit alone for a couple of days I decided to go up and hang out with her. Her story was devastating! Her father poured gasoline on her and set her on fire because she wouldn’t stop crying. She had so much pain.
We ate lunch together that whole summer and even to this day I think about her. In our fast pace society, we don’t take time to care. We just run and do our own thing and don’t want to be inconvenienced or uncomfortable. May we all learn the ways of Jesus and do doers of the word, which is to love others and show compassion like Jesus did! Love your posts Angela!
Have a blessed weekend!
Pam bacani
September 22, 2016Gotta love the phone corrections!
Be doers of the word. ?
Angela L Craig
September 26, 2016Thank you for sharing your experience Pam. It shows me more than ever how important it is not be afraid of people who are different than us and to listen to each other’s stories. Your amazing!